This seems to always be true. No matter the situation or circumstance. It doesn't matter if you are in a competition, war, life in general or in some other personal/professional disaster.
A person who is in any form of competition may win or lose and there shall only be one winner. This is why some egotistical people proclaim that second place is for the first losers. There is some sense of truth in that comment. But how that negative comment is is taken in by any person is defined as positive or negative in motivation. Can it be healthy? yes. Can it be self destructive? Yes. It is dependent on how the teacher/coach teaches it and how the student/player decides how it is meant.
A person who is always involved and seems to only be able to achieve a place which is always less than first place can become defeated and demoralized. While another person who may not even know or be aware of their placement becomes excited at a new personal best, The mean prideful people who have placed much higher than the person who has achieved their personal best may belittle them with ugliness. While at the same time that person who achieved their personal best may very well be thankful to those who placed higher for driving them onward. Can you see the psychology.
The darkness of post defeat can do more harm than than the actual defeat. The leader of warfare may lose badly from their ill made plans. The soldiers and warriors involved have died, been injured and may have been captured. Who is at fault? Did God curse them or you? Being at fault or being cursed always leads to an answer. But, after you have your answer. It is your psychology which forms how your life is self perceived tomorrow.
On the matter of curses. Are you or were your righteous? Have you asked for forgiveness?
The effects of absolute defeat and enslavement can last for hundreds of years in how the new generations are taught. The teaching of the psychology of perpetual failure, defeat and enslavement is evidenced everywhere in the human world. This is seen within many Native American tribes and many African American peoples. Even though they themselves may not even be aware.
This can be seen in how any group of people live, have lived and will live their lives tomorrow.
The abused and tortured souls can live in absolute failure. While others have forged for themselves nearly absolute success in life as defined by them. Despite how badly their lives began within the shadows of cold nothingness. This can also be easily seen in former foster children, Abused spouses and those who have left their Countries of absolute horror for the hopes of America. How has each of these individuals achieved their dreams in the life they have lived is and was all defined by them and their own dreams.
So what happens when the dreams have been stolen away into the abyss of forgotten self identity? All that person has to do is re-remember and to become self empowered to create new ones. To become aware that they still have that power to self create in spite of what ever evil or hardship has befallen them. It is possible when the person believes again they are still possible.
The ill perceived loser who loses everyday in life in comparison to anyone else. May see themselves as a genuine winner as they achieve something new daily and exceed their personal best daily. Where as you who proclaims a loser to be what you think they are. When have you exceeded your personal best or have achieved something new?
Please find those positively inspiring gold nuggets within this writing. If you only see the negativity. Then it is your choice and not mine. I only offer a way to look at things and genuinely hope you find that which is ONLY positive for your own life to live. But, how you live your life is still your free choice and it matters whose or what thumb your under. The thumb is and always has been your accepted illusion. Which is the lie of your life which you wrongly believe as truth.
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