Giving Beyond: (Unedited): 29 Dec 2014:

When those who have done you great harm and after a time become the gift giver. All without admittance or apology. Know that their giving may be beyond their capability.

C.J.MacKechnie

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This does not involve admittance and repentance.
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This is about the hardened heart. God alone has the power to make any being do His will without their knowledge or awareness. So when very bad people appear to suddenly do a good thing. This does not mean that they have become good. Be gracious and kind and express your gratitude. Then depart from them and have no more business or association with them.
Go into your private place of quiet prayer. Give all thanks, praise and glory to God. For it is he alone who has done this thing on your behalf.
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Great harm does include. Those who have abused, tortured and terrorized you for a long period of time. A singular great gift of value is not and should not be considered an invitation to renew any kind of association. Especially if there has been no believable apology or of any admittance of any wrong doing. If these things have not happened. It is not up to you to encourage your abusers to admit or to apologize. That is now between them and God. Especially, If you are now safe and free from any harm.
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Even in the time of Moses. God hardened the heart of the mangod known as Pharaoh. The Pharaoh became unable to repent or even to relent. The Pharaoh had no knowledge and was not even aware of what the God of Moses had done to him. Look it up in the Holy Bible for yourself. It's in there.
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Be warned of the free use of gifts. These are gifts of high value in which you are not given or entitled to ownership rights. These can become very dangerous things for you as you may be required to repay in some way or to exalt the owner in other ways. You may even have to admit guilt for your part in your own abuse and torture. That you were solely at fault for all of the problems you caused towards your family. That maybe your were the only bad person in the whole family.
By accepting the free use gifts. You are accepting their power and authority over you.
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Never Dishonor: (Unedited): 18 March 2013:

An apology is only true if you never repeat your dishonor. C.J.MacKechnie

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Honour

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/honor

http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/dishonor

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Honor is crucial to have in this life. Honor is also what survives you in death. Honor is not taken nor bought. Honor can only be created by you and maintained by you. Just like a precious metal or rare jewel. Every deed and action done or not done. Keeps your metal polished or tarnished. Keeps your rare jewel in high luster or fractured in a million pieces. Your honor is far more valuable than an accumulation of much precious metals and many precious jewels. 

Honor is that thing which takes your entire life time to create and build. Honor is also very fragile. You can destroy all of your honor in one single misdeed or an action not taken.

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Here is a sliver of hope. Once you have lost or destroyed your honor. You can rebuild it, from scratch. Those whom you have dis-honored may never ever show any honor towards you ever again. 

Show, think and feel no negative emotion for those who cannot forgive you. Have only love, compassion and kindness for those who cannot forgive you. You may have to cut ties and move away forever. Then do so in order to ease their unease with you. Then start a new. Be warned Dis-honor follows and will stick it's ugly head up from time to time. Your built up honor in a new place may be the rock which deflects the old and dead dishonorable you.

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