Effective Discipline: (Unedited): 29 May 2015:

Discipline is only effective when the wrong doing has been understood as wrong and wrong behavior has forever been corrected.

C.J.MacKechnie

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I know I'm the wrong person to be discussing discipline. But, maybe I'm the right person. I've never physically harmed my children. Not one time. I just could not get around or justify the harm which was done to me and to do it to these fragile little people. How can I hurt them just to teach them discipline? I just couldn't and neither has my wife. We used logic and the teaching of what is right and what is wrong. We taught why it is wrong to harm another person. We taught respect for others even when they may not respect themselves to much. This seems to have worked. 
Now hopefully, they will each pass this teaching down to their own children and every generation thereafter. 
Correcting bad behavior does not have to involve pain management. Pain management is what you do to animals. Maybe, not even to animals either. Even that sounds like animal cruelty. So why would you want to beat your own children? Are they just little animals or actual people who are more important than any animal? 
This logic and understanding is coming from a person who was beaten into unconsciousness many times by their adoptive mother and locked into small closets. She even tried to kill me on at least three occasions. 
Causing harm and fear into the eyes of my children is not something I ever want. As parents we are already all powerful giants to small children. Why would we want our children to ever fear us? I just can't see the love or compassion in that. It is for us to raise our children to supersede us in life in those areas of their own gifts and talents. Not to harbor any unrighteous fear or to know physical intimidation from their own parents. 
The logical explanation of a wrong doing at the level of the child's understanding is and can be effective. So as long as they do not see those same wrong doings within you. If you do not want your kids to smoke or drink. Then you shouldn't either.  If you don't want your boy children to disrespect your wife or any other female. Well you should not either. If you don't want your kids stealing or obtaining things which are questionable. You should not either. Lead by example by being the example. 
For me it has not been so easy as I had no one to teach me why a wrong is wrong in my youth. To get was OK so as long as you didn't get caught. A female was only for pleasure and were not actually worth knowing. You know the importance of body parts as opposed to the value of the whole person. Mind, body and soul. It is amazing how everything changes when you fall in love with your little girl. I immediately wanted her to always know that she is a whole person. I hope we have succeeded in that teaching. She is far more than just body parts. 
Yes, I'm still a deeply flawed human being who is evolving at a snails pace.
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Giving Beyond: (Unedited): 29 Dec 2014:

When those who have done you great harm and after a time become the gift giver. All without admittance or apology. Know that their giving may be beyond their capability.

C.J.MacKechnie

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This does not involve admittance and repentance.
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This is about the hardened heart. God alone has the power to make any being do His will without their knowledge or awareness. So when very bad people appear to suddenly do a good thing. This does not mean that they have become good. Be gracious and kind and express your gratitude. Then depart from them and have no more business or association with them.
Go into your private place of quiet prayer. Give all thanks, praise and glory to God. For it is he alone who has done this thing on your behalf.
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Great harm does include. Those who have abused, tortured and terrorized you for a long period of time. A singular great gift of value is not and should not be considered an invitation to renew any kind of association. Especially if there has been no believable apology or of any admittance of any wrong doing. If these things have not happened. It is not up to you to encourage your abusers to admit or to apologize. That is now between them and God. Especially, If you are now safe and free from any harm.
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Even in the time of Moses. God hardened the heart of the mangod known as Pharaoh. The Pharaoh became unable to repent or even to relent. The Pharaoh had no knowledge and was not even aware of what the God of Moses had done to him. Look it up in the Holy Bible for yourself. It's in there.
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Be warned of the free use of gifts. These are gifts of high value in which you are not given or entitled to ownership rights. These can become very dangerous things for you as you may be required to repay in some way or to exalt the owner in other ways. You may even have to admit guilt for your part in your own abuse and torture. That you were solely at fault for all of the problems you caused towards your family. That maybe your were the only bad person in the whole family.
By accepting the free use gifts. You are accepting their power and authority over you.
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Vengeance Magnified: (Unedited): 16 April 2013:

  A single act of vengeance successfully carried out. Only magnifies hatred and anger to all of those affected/effected. So much so, that each of those affected/effected may carry out their own individual/collective plans for vengeance.  C.J.MacKechnie

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The end result of vengeance, will always be scaled extinction.  Scaled extinction is a logical response/conclusion to an action taken. My use of the word extinction is not of the complete death, but can be eventually.
Scaled extinction is when one person does an act and as a result he dies. That person is extinct or just dead. As you scale up in the numbers of peoples. So, does the scaling effect of extinction. Until, such a time that extinction is total.
Anger and hatred are a part of the logical formula for death. Meaning Death=Chaos+war+Hatred. I'm not exactly sure where anger and vengeance fit into the formula for death. Although Vengeance is a part of the war set.
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A person dies because of wrong doing. Becomes extinct.
A family dies because of wrong doing. Becomes extinct.
Clans and tribes die because of wrong doing. They all become.
Countries die because of wrong doing. They become extinct.
Planets die because of wrong doing. They all become extinct.

A person, a family, a clan, a tribe, a people, a country and a planet can all be extinct and yet still be alive. They are just the last of their kind which is still living. 
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When you or any one else or even any entity brings into it's existence any aspect of the formula of death. All of the other variables will begin to become altered/changed. This effect is like a wave which moves from the origin element into the other adjacent elements. Until, the final conclusion is true death. What gives the new element it's strength and power to change/alter the other elements is human intention. Human intention from the body, heart, mind and spirit.
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Anyone who begins to see their own upcoming extinction. Can alter it. Even though they may still die. By bringing into their own lives all of the necessary elements of the formula for life. Life=Love+Peace+Harmony.
Absolute scaled extinction can be changed/altered. Even though the result appears to be evident and certain. There is a finite point where nothing can be changed or altered. This is just like a convicted criminal. The convicted criminal will see his/her death sentence carried out. His/Her extinction is certain and unchangeable.  If he/she can genuinely change/alter his/her own hearts, minds, bodies and spirit. Then maybe by osmosis into his/her surviving family and friends. Maybe, He or she will be survived by their children. Maybe? You must change in order to survive. You must teach the justified means to your death. So, that others may see your "deaths wisdom" and choose the formula for life for all. Embrace life so that others may live. Even if your fate is certain.